While it can be absolutely magical, love isn’t always the stuff of fairytales. Real relationships can be messy, confusing and downright frustrating. Whether you are struggling with communication barriers, betrayal, or intimacy issues, couples therapy can help you make sense of your situation and move forward together. Some level of disagreement is normal in relationships, but how you handle it makes all the difference. Understanding the ways in which your own strategies come into play to perpetuate conflicts can make them easier to overcome. Having new experiences with your partner within the therapy hour can give you the power to make new choices in your relationship.
Couples work can help heal old wounds, resolve anger and facilitate deeper, more loving connections.
No matter if you are gay, straight, dating, married, monogamous, non-monogamous, or anything in between, I can help you cultivate the relationship you desire.
We are the products of past experiences and lessons learned from our families, peers, and society. We constantly receive messages from outside sources about who we are, but ultimately the choice about who we want to become is our own. Other people's opinions, trauma, and self-doubt can all leave us feeling lost and disconnected from who we really are. I can help you overcome these barriers in order to reconnect with your authentic self.
Feelings of overwhelming sadness, hopelessness, having little interest or pleasure in doing things, eating too much or too little, sleeping too much or too little, or thoughts of harming yourself can all be signs that you are struggling with depression.
It doesn't have to be this way. I can help you take charge of your life and move back into the driver's seat so you can chart the course for the life you want to live.
Constant worry or fear that something bad is going to happen, chronic stress, restlessness, or never being able to fully relax could mean anxiety is getting in the way of your ability to thrive.
If any of these feelings have started to get in the way of your ability to function at work or in personal relationships or become so severe that you are turning to drugs or alcohol to help manage them, it is time to seek treatment. Please contact me today so we can come up with a plan for how to overcome these issues.
My approach to therapy affirms gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity (GSRD) that may fall outside traditional social norms. I encourage individuals and couples to explore what works for them. Alternative lifestyles and relationship styles take on many forms and may include 'spicy sex' that involves kink/BDSM, consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, or sex work.
Lacking mainstream examples of how non-traditional relationships can function may lead to conflict and confusion in navigating life and love. These experiences may prevent you from embracing your most genuine expression of self and living the life you truly desire. You are the author of your own story. Let's rewrite it together.
Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM)
Consensually non-monogamous relationships are unique in that each person involved understands and accepts that their partner or partners may be involved with one or more others at any given time.
This can include polyamory, open relationships and swinging. Sometimes all partners interact and enjoy one another's company, and sometimes they do not. The beauty of these relationship styles is that you get to choose what works for you and customize your approach based on your own individual/collective tastes. Honesty and communication are the foundation of these relationships, but sometimes this is easier said than done. Setting boundaries, navigating jealousy and managing time are all normal issues that come up around crafting happy, successful connections. We can explore unconscious programming and heal old wounds that get in the way of creating the life and relationships you desire.
Whether you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, asexual, pansexual (LGBTQ+) or are questioning your orientation and curious about exploring your preferences, I understand the unique strengths and stressors that accompany these identities.
Homophobia, transphobia, heterosexism and other forms of oppression often impact these communities.
Struggling with an experience of gender that feels incongruent with the one assigned at birth can cause significant distress and manifest as anxiety, depression or worse.
My goal is to empower you to live your truth and overcome these challenges by:
Let's work together to uncover solutions for the problems that are holding you back from living the life you desire.
California Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Associate #107192
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